In a fast-paced world filled with so many responsibilities, deadlines and endless tasks to do, it can get rather taxing. As mothers, we have more on our plate. We are expected to be on top of things both at home and as career driven women. I have always wanted to be an independent woman who is both amazing at work and at home, but I am honestly just tired!
Tired of just always having to show up as the best version of myself, tired of being expected to deliver in everything that I do, tired of the expectations I have set for myself, tired of just going and not having a moment to catch a breath. This world can get rather tiring, don't you agree?
I feel like it has been a while since I have unplugged, like really unplugged. So, I took it upon myself to be off socials for a couple of days (WhatsApp, Instagram mainly), because on WhatsApp I feel like I constantly have to respond to messages, view people's status updates and see what is going on in their lives as that keeps me connected to those around me since I don't see friends and family so often and also keep in touch with on WhatsApp groups chats. On Instagram, I often feel the need to keep my followers updated with recent posts as it said that consistency is key, and that constant engagement helps one grow. At this point, I am at a stage in my life where the main work should be in preserving myself and not the brand that I am building. The brand can only grow and thrive from having the best and healthy version of me.
Since I am on annual leave for the week this would be the best time to just unplug. It is day 3 and man, I am loving every minute of it and wonder why I had not started this earlier.
What I have been able to replace my online activities with:
Reading the bible and bible-based activities a lot more
Journaling my feelings on my mom to sons' journal
Journaling my feelings on my own journal and blog
Eating my favourite meals or foods and being mindful using all my senses
Watching a good series with my husband and connecting
Dedicate an entire afternoon to the boys without any distractions or trying to shoot content
Sleeping in more and just resting
Stretching exercises and deep breathing
Shopping for myself by myself
Solo date
Lunch dates with new acquaintances
Walks in nature
Re-igniting my other hobbies (sewing, decorating, flower arranging)
Follow up medical appointments that I have been procrastinating
Things that I have noticed since I have unplugged:
I am a lot more in touch with my thoughts and feelings
I am a lot more creative and feel energized in my thoughts and ideas
I feel a lot more calm and less anxious
I am a lot happier and more able to connect with my loved ones a bit more
I have created good boundaries and noticed my loved ones to be very understanding and respectful of the boundaries set
I did not miss out on much or anything important while offline
I am a lot more mindful of what I was doing and of my surroundings
My husband and I have been able to connect on a deeper level
I have been able to connect with Jehovah God a lot more and feed my spiritual need
Become more patient and in control with my own feelings as a mother
This was only possible because, I planned my leave in advance. Although, my plans did not go as I had envisioned. The plan was for the kids to visit grandma and be there with my back up nanny as I also gave my full-time nanny time off for her to rest and be revived. However, grandma had a power outage for the entire week. And my back up nanny was stuck elsewhere and could not make it but planned for a trusted person to work in her behalf. I was initially not keen with having a new person come in, but I prayed about it and allowed God to lead the way. Only to find that she is amazing with kids and my boys love her, so I was happy to have someone stay over with us for the week because our full-time nanny is not a stay-in but travels daily. That has been our arrangement for 2 years and I can feel how drained my husband and I are. We certainly needed the extra help...
Moral of the story, do whatever it takes to preserve yourself!
For your sake
For your child's sake!
With Love
Your OT Boy Mamma
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